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On my last blog (ABC’s Zeroing in on what you want) I wrote that I felt in a state of “nothing” and that I wanted to learn how to create for me. Though proud of the balance and happiness around me. Well, then through “Women at Heart” I read a blurb by Ingrid Bacci on “Effortlest Living”.

I read through her blurb and website and found this: http://www.ingridbacci.com/self-empowerment.htm

Self-Empowerment

Are you seeking self-empowerment? Did you know that being self-empowered is identical with feeling more effortless, more in a state of ‘flow?’ Are you aware that being in ‘flow’ or in ‘the zone’ can be taught? Would you like to learn this art and become truly self-empowered? Ingrid Bacci’s goal is to show you how to release physical, emotional, mental and spiritual stress from your life, so as to live more effortlessly, productively and with a deeper sense of fulfillment and self-empowerment.

After reading a little further, I found I was exactly where I wanted to be and just needed a little time to get comfortable with this new “feeling or sense”. That the feeling of “nothing” was actually the most powerful place of creation I could be in. I was in the “zone”.

With that, I am really looking forward to what I can do now with this knowledge. Still need to get the feet moving again.
Have a blessed day.

Kim

ABC’s - Zero in on your target and go for it.

I have to say this is one of my toughest ones. I have found that I had gotten really good on doing this for others (family, friends, work). And though I had received a lot of “riches” in my life, the “reason” I had for them was so others were taken care of and better off. When the majority of my stress was managed, I had switched my life around and what now “centered”, there was an odd sense of “nothing”.

Don’t get me wrong, I am happy. I have a loving partner, great business partners, kids are striving, getting along well with the ex, family relationships going well, dog is doing great…. yet, there is still the odd sense of “nothing”. I manage my health daily, my energy and stress levels, the balances of everything…. yet, hmmmm.

I can visualize and imagine what I want. Have all the tingles and excitement about it, then poof…. not there yet. What was contributing to this? What was I doing that would get me so close, yet so far from what I wanted? And now, I had people attached and a part of my dreams. My lack of being able to maintain (or lack of knowledge about doing for me) my wants was affecting others. This was very new to me. And though this was there in the past, what moved me before was anger about something or someone. I definitely did not want anger to be my motivator anymore.

So, no that I am “calm” and happy…. I am proceeding into the next stage of this years journey to with deliberate intent, dare to dream and follow through on the part of me. That I am worth it, deserve to be successful and am allowed to be prosperous.

Dare to dream. You will know you are close to zeroing in on your target when there are chills down your spine and through your body. An uncontrollable smile across your face and sparkles in your eyes. My next stage and what I am working on now is the going for it for the reason of I just want to.
Have a blessed day.

ABC’s - Xcellerate your efforts

Basically, if you want to excel your efforts, then clean up your “house”. By which I mean, “Mind, Body and Soul”. Reconnect these three as they all can get you where you want to be. And then, amazing speed, agility and miraculous things can happen.

This includes how you feel about all of your “relationships”: Getting to know your emotional guidance system

* With Self - spiritual, intellectual, physical.
* With People - I do this by role type: Parents / Bosses, Children / Employees, Friends / Colleagues, etc.
* With Things - Money, Property, Heirlooms

As you find out how you Feel about things as they “are”, Ask yourself these questions:

* What about this is important to me?
* Is it something I want to keep or remove?
* If I choose to keep it, were does it belong?

Then, fill your tool box: Now that you know what is important, is “how” you cared for that still working?

* Now that I know what is important to me, how do I feel about how I cared, got, did this before?
* Did I feel tired? Did I feel refreshed? How do I do it better for me?
* Do I have the answer for that or do I need new information?

I have found for me, I have a yearly cycle. My “year end” is May 13. My “Start of Year” is May 14. The week following is for transitioning closing down and opening up. And through this past “year” I now can hear my soul with clarity. And I now see that I have always done this and have put out what I will accomplish in the coming year.

May 2006 - I took stock in my marriage, my family, my children and my job. By May 2007, I had changed ALL of those situations. They were all closed and I was staged for something new. I had completed my education.

May 2007 - I took into consideration all that I had learned and now went for what I wanted. I have now found my soul partner, my children are accelerating and I have time for them. I have found my business partners and am starting that as well. My relationships with those closest to me are now solid and flourishing. This will be one amazing year in full creation.

My toolbox is full. I have the skill and know how. I can determine quickly if it is a want for me or others and determine it’s importance and priority in my life.

So understand your want, visualize it fully, listen to how you ask for your wants and then Xcellerate it by filling your tool box with exercises that help you do this with each decision you make.

Have a blessed time creating.

Kim

ABC’s - Take control of your own destiny

How did I take control of my destiny? Hmmm…. there are so many layers to this. I have now have a reference set of books that I utilize to help others help themselves and that have helped me to “take control”.

1) The Bible. Which I have started to re-read. (For the spiritual guidance)
2) “The Law of Attraction” and “Ask and It Shall be Given” (For the rules of how this all works)
3) South Beach diet book (For the health and support of a body)
4) “What to expect when you are expecting” Series of books… (for the physical development cycles)
5) “The Baby Whisper” series of books (about communication, respect and emotional development)
6) still researching…. coming soon
7) still researching…. coming soon

When I started to study “Ask and It Shall be Given” and understanding the law of attraction, I found many places that outwardly I was asking in the negative voice. Just removing that did a lot to change my experiences. Then I noticed, though my outward voice was changing, what I was getting back was still “disjointed”. I then found that my internal voice had it’s own words. I started to clearly see that some of my “definitions” were all messed up. I and my sister went back to the basics and true meanings for all words. This helped to clear up my own internal chatter and helped me to see where I was “hurt” or where I had made some strong “choices” in the past.

Ask all of my internal and external communication straighted out, and I had started to heal my body from the inside out…. I found I could think more clear. Allowing time to heal the emotional self. I no longer “gave in” to other’s desires by giving up on mine. And as I started to “cleanse” my emotional, soulful, physical and external houses…. I found more energy, more strength, more ….. lets say, I found the true “ME”…

I now take full responsibility and pride in my life, my dreams, my health, etc. I am for the first time in my adult life, truly happy. I know now how to help someone else by simply being keeping myself centered and healthy. I know now that I DO have the choice on how I feel about a situation. And if an emotion does trigger, I use it to guide my choices versus ignoring the feelings.

The time spent to heal oneself with intent is well worth the investment. Now the original dreams I came here to do initially are now back on track and thriving. There is still a lot of cleansing of the “old life” to do, but I am centered, I am strong and I am happy.

Here’s to a most wonderful journey for all of us.

Have a blessed day!

Kim

ABC’s - Quitters never win and winners Never Quit

Well, you know, for the first blog I think I have come across, I don’t think I have much to add. This one is pretty self explanatory.

Ah…. I know what I can write on this one. I think it is also important to understand when it is time to “walk away”. I tried harder and harder and harder to save my marriage. I was raise with the mantra above. And if you just work harder, and don’t give up, then all will work out.

Well, I guess it did in a way right? I worked on me. Went to counseling, studied myself, learned how to grieve, re-affirmed my faith and found, oops, chose wrong. I am not one that would want to “change” anyone else, but there are times when you must just realize that the person you may be with, though they may be good with someone else, just isn’t good with you or vice versa.

So, not to say that I “quit”, I just chose to get back to thriving versus surviving. And, re-affirming that sometimes, a body needs a break. Time to recharge, time for fun. If you are constantly “working so hard” you leave no time for the blessings to shine around you, for life to fill you. (pst: vacations are important)

So for all of you that “work” as hard at things as I did, you are officially asked to take a time out. Time to reflect, recharge and remember why you are doing what it is you do in the first place.

Have a blessed day!

Kim

ABC’s - Open eyes and see things as they really are.

Yep…. goes along well with yesterday’s post. We have all fallen into this one. Ever seen the one that comes as the end of a relationship? And everyone we know could see, but we couldn’t?

Now, not taking away from people want us safe and happy, so they are more critical than we are at first. And some of those relationships are worth fighting for. But, when you start asking “Why didn’t I see that?”… take a moment and look. Why didn’t you? Then, when you find the answer, heal it, make a choice and create a mental tool for yourself to help you recognize those important things the next time. And… don’t ignore it when you see it. Be real with yourself first!

I found through my recent stuff, I really want and miss the open communication with my Dad. (yes, I have wrote on that before, see how important it is? ) But, I found also that I was “communicating” with these people that didn’t return calls, made assumptions instead of asking questions, made excuses, etc. So, if something is so important to me, why was I in a state of allowing it “everywhere” else?

Now this is not to say that some of these people aren’t important to me, they are. I just accept that about them (individually) and my relationship with the, but choose not to “feel” the disappointment cause I have defined it in. But for the ones that I find that they rest of the relationship doesn’t bring enough, I have to let them go, for me. Cause if I continue to put energy into allowing those in my life, then I will miss the beauty that someone else may show me.

Have a most blessed day! And here is to seeing all the inner beauty that you are every moment!

ABC’s - Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.

How do you all do with this one? I have been told and we all laugh about it that I have no poker face and it is very apparent when I lie… I just can’t. And that fair thing… yeah, do that to a fault, for the other person.

I am finding during this journey to my next stage in life, that I should never lie, cheat or steal, and should ALWAYS strike a fair deal for ME. This is probably the toughest lesson I have had to do. And sums up most of my challenges in previous blogs. And yes, there are signs for the internal lies we tell ourselves as well.

My friends and family have questioned my “taste” in men over the past few relationships. I tell them they have a “quiet strength” that attracts me. Utilizing all those sporadic moments of good to tell a story of how great they are. (striking a fair deal for them). So, these people were blessed to have met me, but I was not so blessed to have chosen them. And, nor will I be able to fully trust myself undone with them.

I found that my truth was / is I wanted to be accepted my way and for the full of me. I looked for the disrespect (in all its forms) I perceived from my youth and lived it cause I was just sure that someone would see the beauty of me; outside of their own stuff. (hhhmmmm what had I been asking for? and looked was continued to be).

I found that the ones I wanted so much, really don’t like or respect women. HHHMM.. Now, considering that I am one, the result is as wonderful as I am, this main part will not be able to be changed.
So today with all of you, I choose to respect and love myself. To not tell “stories” or paint pretty pictures anymore. Reality is reality. And if I feel the need to scream that there is a problem, or have the need to tell someone good bye, that I am being truthful and that I am wanting a fair deal for me. And, if I don’t listen or act on it, then I am cheating myself from what I do want to come into my reality.

Listen to what your heart trying to tell you when you feel like coming undone. What is it you want? Not what you have or don’t have, but what you want. The take a positve step in that direction.

We all deserve to be the best US we can be. And we all deserve love, honesty, trust and RESPECT. But it has to start with how we listen, talk and act with ourselves.

Have a blessed day all! Love yourself fully.

Hang on to your dreams.

This one sounds really easy. But this is probably one of the hardest things to do. We start by putting our dreams on hold while we take care of what we are “responsible” for. We do our classes, we make the grades, we get the jobs, we get the home, we have the kids, we tend to our relationships, we do for others.

Now, don’t get me wrong, those all all blessed things as well. However, if we don’t tend to our dreams, then we are not tending to ourselves. We are dismissing the energy that is ours. It is not to say that we have to be “perfect” or that the picture of what we dreamed won’t change, but the dreams must be there.

After the birth of my last child (as I have written previously - a most horribly trying pregnancy) I found I was missing something…. my heart, my desire, my want. I knew I wanted and loved my children, but I didn’t feel whole. Something was missing. Then, I was training someone on how to do an interview, what to look for on a resume and application… and why we look. When I hit the question of “hobbies”, I found I didn’t have any. How is that possible at 30+ years old?

Well, one by one, I put my dreams on hold. Though some of my dreams were present and accounted for, the parts that were mine alone were missing. My energy was going OUT, but I was not allowing for anything to replenish that which was me. I am a mom, a homemaker, a business woman, an employee, a friend, a family member…. but, outside of all that, I was nothing. I had not allowed myself the time to celebrate and “play” with my dreams.

So, during the two and half years since my last little blessing arrived, I started to do things… see what I liked. I have found that I like to take pictures. That I LOVE music… singing, dancing, listening… getting completely lost in the music. I like to do things with my yard and to grow things. I like to do projects and make things look better than they did. And, thus the creative part of self started to come back. A drive that I want for more.

Now, that isn’t to say that then I had to work through that I also deserved to have more. That I, just like all other souls, have the right to be treated with respect, to follow my dreams and to be happy.

So, hang on to you dreams. And make a conscious effort to bring them out and play with them on a regular if not daily basis. It is important to who you are, to your energy source, to your happiness. They are what make you uniquely you!

Dare to dream a little dream today. Do a jig at the end of your day for all you go done. Sing a silly song. Smile.

Have a blessed day.

“Considering Things From Every Angle” is one of my most cherished and most detrimental skills.

I have been struggling over the past month with depression and being on STOP. I started down the path of determining “WHY” I felt this way. “WHY” I couldn’t get going. “WHY” my life had turned out this way.

I reached out to my counselor, my doctor, found some tools that were helpful to help me manage stress better, yet, things did not turn around. “WHY”?

One day in Mid March, everything seemed to crash around me. I had been feeling the strain of the divorce and layoff, being a single Mom and the healing that had to be. I felt proud of how I was pulling myself up and moving forward. The one single person questioned my approach. Questioned my intent. And that was it…. all started to unravel.

So… in Kim Style…. my fast paced brain started to consider every angle. But the questions were not good for me…. “Why would someone think that of me?”, “Why am I not as successful as I want to be?”, “Why can I not heal?”. I looked at my relationship with my EX, the fact that it was the anniversary of my Dad passing, the fact that my brother and I weren’t speaking….

Back in January I wrote a blog on “Are your Questions Empowering you”…. And though I was definitely looking at every angle, I most surely was not asking empowering questions.

So, I woke up the other day, found that all the reasons I left my marriage, I was now doing. I made the mistake of “comparing” myself, being “right” on was or wasn’t done during the marriage, and looking at all the things that hurt…. you know “considering every angle” that would “justify” the way I felt.

But all it did was keep me there. And manifest more of the same, because then came jealousy of my EX getting on with his life, martyrdom of being the one that had to do everything, guilt over all that I “couldn’t” do.

So…. about a week ago, I literally asked God to help me. To help ease the pain enough so I could consider things from a different view point. To help me get to where I want to be, not where I didn’t want to be. And this morning, I received this quote from “women-at-heart”:

“Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation. It’s not what they’re not doing or should be doing that’s the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing. If you start to think the problem is ‘out there,’ stop yourself. That thought is the problem.”

– Stephen Covey

Clues abound….. I was so concentrated on all that was, that I was turning into it. I was no longer looking at what had improved, giving myself credit for being empowered, celebrating the three most important people in my life.

So do, consider things from every angle but, as the quote above eludes to, remember that you have the choice on how to feel about it. I am one to definitely attest to, you can quickly and most determinedly affect your life just through thought. If you hear the negative questions, consider asking them again in the positive.

With true conviction, “Have a most blessed day”!!!!

I haven’t been writing regularly as of late as I was dealing with a depressive state and did not feel too positive.

Though I would never advocate “staying” in that darker side where emotions get high, I do recommend you take some time to let it be. To let it run through part of its course. I choose to handle my depression without medication. I feel that though medication is a good support for a person, that if we learn how to manage it without supports (diet, emotional support, exercise, etc) that we can break the cycle for our little ones.

Depression runs (in different forms) on both sides of my family and from what I can ascertain, my ex-husband’s as well. So, I choose the hard road by right. I would rather have some tough moments in order to help understand what can and does work and then in turn, put those supports into my children’s lives.

Through this bout, that I am pulling out of…. I found that though I choose to see the bright side of things, forgive and see the positive…. I in turn was not allowing myself my own emotions. I would be angry, but turn the other cheek, be sad, and ignore it and do something positive. These are not bad things mind you and in the long run I would and will do the same… however, if you are angry, that anger needs to be expressed. If you are sad, you need time to cry. If you are happy, never apologies and always laugh, smile. The difference comes is on the “darker sides”…. express, just don’t hurt.

Once I allowed my emotions their time, asked for help from my niece (to stay with me while I went through this), reached out to a few friends and just sat for a few days…. clarity started to come. Though it will be an uphill climb for a little while, the benefit of sitting still for a minute helped tremendously.

Things I found out during my episode:

1) I miss my dad terribly. But what did I miss? I miss being able to talk to someone who had no judgment on me… who I could just be me with. His strength, conviction and stubbornness. (I have added these qualities to my list of what my next partner will have). And started spending less time with those that make me feel otherwise.

2) I found that though I cleaned house a few weeks back and deleted some numbers, called less frequent, that for a moment, it can get really lonely. But, if you don’t clean house from that which hurts you, you leave less room for those relationships that will help and be of benefit to you. As that came clear, some new friends (and some old) called me, cause they got a sense I needed a call and some support. WOW!!! What a turn around. You know…. maybe, if I stop doing it all… it would actually allow someone the time to help? Ha Ha Ha…. what a concept.

3) I determined that I still have a problem with my prosperity. And that you can only look at what YOU have and where YOU are. Though I have a lot of the things in my life that I asked for, I am still longing for something more. This doesn’t change. I need to STOP feeling so thankful for what I have that I deny myself from that, which is still to come. Prosperity is not something we should deny for ourselves, it is our right and we deserve. Note, still working on this one. So, for the moment, though in some dark recesses of my mind I still think I should JUST be thankful for what I have or have had…. that I do deserver more, and that I CAN and WILL be the ultimate success for my family and myself.

So…. back to basics and utilizing my creativitiy…. here we go. Ready for our ABCs again? That is the start of my next blog, which I am going to do right now. You know…. I actually miss doing this. You are all my new circle group. And I actually miss this more than seeing some of my old circle group. Interesting.
Have a most blessed day!