There are times that I come across this feeling that I am unconnected or unwanted. When I look back…. these feelings started out similar to what they are now…. just moments in time when you just really want someone there to listen, not pass judgment or and just let you “vent”. Not tell you what you should do next, not tell you what you did wrong, not assume it is something they did.
These are just moments for allowing…. to allow yourself to be vulnerable.
When I was young, I did not find such a place… so over the years, this “feeling” would last for longer periods (not just hours). And then other aspects would show up. I was blessed, after some time, to find such a place with my Dad. He has since passed and I have been at a loss since. I have lots of friends that try, or should I say we both do, but I have not found that “safe” place I had with my dad. No judgments, no defining, no blame… just release.
So let me practice this and fully believe in it….. “I want someone in my life that puts no dependency on me for their well-being, loves being around me for the shear fact that I am me, that we accept each other with no pre-determined stuff or definitions and we can just talk, celebrate and learn.”.
We all do this in part throughout our days…. but really… we ALL deserve to have that one person, that one activity, that one place…. that lets us just release, heal and then ultimately rest. So that we continue being the beautiful, wonderfully creative people that we are.
Now here is my blessing for all of us…. “May we all find that special friend, acquaintance, place, activity that helps us to release and heal… for that moment that we need it, so that we continue being the creative, generous souls that we are.”
When someone “accuses” you or makes determinations of what your actions “were”…. especially without asking. And they are off the mark on your intent. Then take a look at how they feel about themselves. We only have the definitions that we have. It takes a strong person to ask questions, be ready to grow and want to understand. We all do this…. but unfortunately most people, want to be “unconditionally loved”, but they don’t believe they are allowed that, and thus, can’t give it.
And when you listen… (not take offense) they are saying that they believe and feel that there are conditions around being loved or supported.
Here’s to finding the place that you can just release for a moment…. and to stay strong with being the place that someone can find that unconditional moment with.
Did I mention I really love what we are doing here? A release for us, a place to speak, and a place to show people your aren’t alone, that life is worth a lot, and that all the blessings you wish for your kids or loved ones…. you deserve as well!
Sometimes, taking the high road, or being all that you are, can be lonely. Or you feel alone. But really, it is just a moment. Find the activity, the person, the place… ask for it if you haven’t found it… and allow it to come. WE ALL deserve to have a place of rest at the end of long day, week, month… so we can come out smiling the next day and have released. No hurt, harm or daggers thrown.
Have a most blessed day!