Michael

Self-help is the best help. – Polish Proverb

Self-help is definitely the best. You are your own expert. You know better than others what your exact desires and needs are to help you feel better. You know what you don’t want. You know exactly what you do want.

Do you make mistakes sometimes? The surprising answer is NO. There are no mistakes; only opportunities to adjust your direction. Everything you do and everything you think is a mistake is really just information you need to make a course change. It’s one of the ways you help yourself.

We all have a tendency to look outside ourselves for help or assistance as we deal with the things life throws our way. But all us, bar none, have the all the answers we need. We just need to look inside. I don’t think we have been taught or trained to look for all our answers internally. We all intuitively know it and feel it most clearly when we are pushed in a direction we don’t want to go. There are more subtle incidences which are more difficult to detect; like a passive aggressive comment from a friend or spouse, a seemingly innocuous statement that makes us feel guilt or a more overt opinion thrown in our face. The bottom line is that we know when the ideas from others are not helpful. We feel it deeply regardless of whether we admit it or not.

Helping yourself gives you the control over your own life. No one else is to blame. Maybe some people wouldn’t like that, but I love it.

Give yourself a hand and stop relying on others.

Michael