Michael

For the first time in a long time, I am having some challenges at work. My boss is really treating me in a negative way. Much more so than usual. This behavior from my boss has been going on for about a month.

So, tonight I talked to my business partner Nat about it. My question was how did I go from the opposite experience to the one I am having now, i.e. from “good” to “bad.” His first response was why do I always go down that road? In other words, asking the question of “How did I get here?” Unfortunately that is a pattern for me. I’m trying to break that habit.

The better question is “Where do I want to be?” or “How do I want this situation to be different?” Strange things start happening when you focus on what you desire as opposed to what you don’t desire or don’t like. One thing you will notice is that your mood will get better and your outlook will brighten. And if you can keep your eye on what you desire while attempting to feel good where you currently are, you will find that slowly but surely the situation you don’t like will start to morph into what you do desire.

I have seen this happen over and over again in my life during the last several years. It’s like magic. For an experiment, why don’t you try this technique on something small that you want to change? Remember don’t react to the situation in front of you. Instead, focus on what you really desire/want, figure out a way to feel better about where you currently are and then sit back and watch your situation change slowly but surely. You will be amazed.

Well, I guess I should listen to my own advice. Even though I know these techniques work and have successfully applied them to other parts of my life, there are still areas of my life where I get stuck and practice old habits. Today’s example is one of them. But, I’ll get right on it after I finishing writing.

Have a great day!

Michael

Right now a moment of time is passing by!….We must become that moment. – Paul Cezanne