Michael

The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit. - Nelson Henderson

I had a chat with an old friend today. We have not really been that close for a very long time but still talk every so often. Our disagreements made it difficult to carry on the friendship at a deep level, so we decided to part ways.

Periodically we have a brief conversation on the phone. Sometimes I have to really let go of my old feelings or “hurts” to carry on the conversation at a mature level. I found out today when they called again that I didn’t have to work that hard to keep my feelings at bay. I had finally released them; probably some time ago without consciously realizing it.

So, my old friend was having some challenges and difficulties in their life at the moment. I was able to stand back and give some help based on my own experience. I found that it wasn’t hard at all to stay objective and not get wrapped up into the details and drama of all their issues.

That was a freeing experience. Three important things were evident: 1) I no longer held on to the old feelings. 2) I was confident enough in my own experiences to give useful advice, and 3) I didn’t get caught up in the drama that is their life.

Hooray! Progress is a good thing.

Have a great day.

Michael