Michael

I’ve been thinking about this topic for several days as I find myself in a situation where my future seems uncertain. In other words, I am at a fork (maybe multiple forks) and I don’t know which way I’m going. It’s a strange feeling, especially since I have been practicing directing my life more consciously over the past 2 or 3 years.

In the past I dealt with this by never taking any risks. I finally realized that my life had become boring and I had no opportunities for positive change. So, I started taking risks and everything changed for the better.

So, now I’m faced with uncertainty around my job, i.e. whether I am going to have it past the end of the year. For a week, I was anxious and nervous about it. Now, I am strangely calm and introspective. I think the difference has been due to three key core beliefs:

1. I have a very strong belief that I am always where I am supposed to be. (Note: this belief took some time to develop).
2. I have faith that everything always works out for me. (Again, this is a “new” way of thinking for me.)
3. I see more doors opening than the one that might be closing. (I believe this one is a consequence of the first two.)

Helping yourself to feel better in the moment is a great key to improving your reaction to uncertainty. I mentioned on Flo’s Nov. 19th post (called “To Be Honest”) that I practice focusing on something other than the thought or emotion that is troubling me. (Note: Flo’s post is interesting in that she talks about dealing with seemingly incompatible emotions at the same time, e.g. happiness and irritation.) It has been a difficult practice to learn, but it works for me.

So , how do you deal with uncertainty? How do you maintain your sense of balance during those times? What techniques work for you?

Have a great day,

Michael