Subscribe in a readerTalkin’ to myself…#2
Yesterday I was quoting SARK’s “States of Being”. This focus on self-talk seems important, so I want to continue with SARK’s suggestions about how she has learned to accept parts of herself that she doesn’t necessarily “love” with her “new view” of situations.
Repeating addictive behaviors: Support is essential (find someone/group for support)
Overwhelm, anxiety: If your inner nurturing parent is engaged and active, it is much less posssible to feel overwhelmed or anxious. Also, if you can identify when you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed, and give it room to exist, it will dissolve and transform.
Controlling/perfectionist: There is no control and perfection is arrogant. Practrice messiness, letting go, and doing things badly.
Fear: Identify a fear and work with it objectively. Recognize the contraction of fear and experiment with expansion of an opposite state. Example: Loss vs. plenty
– SARK, Prosperity Pie
Practice positive self talk – it’s an essential part of self-love.
It’s embarrassing to recognize that I allow nearly all of the forms of negative self-talk that SARK lists, but it’s encouraging to see her antidotes for each. I particularly like her advice about Controlling/perfectionist talk. “Perfection is arrogant.” What a great way to think about it, since I used to tell myself that perfectionism was a virtue, the expression of high standards. It’s much easier to want to stop being arrogant. And practicing messiness, letting go, sounds very appealing. Does my messy desk count?
Comment by Nat — May 12, 2007 @ 5:38 am