Flo

This morning I was noticing my self-talk.  At the moment I noticed it, it was “if you put things away, you’ll find them faster.”  Although that could have been stated negatively, surprisingly, in that moment is was stated as more of an observation.  An awareness of fact.  I can’t say my self-talk is always so kind.

It’s not that I’m punitive when I talk to myself (sometimes, and only when I’m alone, it is even aloud!) but I don’t always have loving kindness, compassion or empathy for me.  If I can do that toward others, I know I can do it for me.  So, why don’t I?

In “Prosperity Pie” SARK has an entire section she titles “States of Being”.  She says:

“I am still surprised when I keep discovering how little I actually accept myself.  As soon as I feel certainty in one kind or level of self-acceptance, it seems that another appears.  This is closely related to lack of self-love, with a twist: I think we are being asked to accept things we don’t necessarily love.  This is a rich ongoing area of inquiry for me and many others.”

She continues by giving suggestions on how we can change this.

Not accepting one-self: Accept everything, judge nothing.

Habitual negative thought: You can gently practice new self-talk and experiment with a different focus.

Addicted to struggle, suffering, drama: If you can identify what need your compulsive behavior is meeting, you can choose to do it differently.

Rehearsing, predicting, futurizing:  Meditation is perhaps the best antidote for any of the above.

Compulsive/obsessive thought, worrying: Worry is not preparation (attributed to Cheri Huber).  Objective thinking is very stabilizing.

The list is long.  I’ll continue with the rest tomorrow.  In the meantime, try to hear what you’re saying to yourself.

Namaste’

Flo